Questions Worth Asking When You're Getting to Know Someone
You've met someone interesting.
The conversations are going well. You share some beliefs, enjoy talking, and are beginning to wonder whether you might have a future together.
What would be useful to learn next?
There is no single conversation that can tell you everything about a person. But thoughtful questions can help you understand how someone thinks, what matters to them, and how your lives might fit together.
About Faith and Daily Life
- What part of your spiritual life has been especially meaningful recently?
- How does your Faith influence your ordinary decisions?
- Has your understanding of service changed over time?
About Character and Differences
- When you disagree with someone you care about, how do you usually approach it?
- What have you learned about yourself through a difficult decision?
- What does consultation look like to you in a close relationship?
About Marriage
- What kind of daily life would you hope to share with a spouse?
- What qualities do you value most in a marriage?
- How would you balance personal goals with responsibilities to each other?
About Practical Life
- How open are you to living in another city or country?
- How do you approach financial decisions and responsibilities?
- What are your expectations around family relationships and community involvement?
Let the Conversation Develop
These questions are useful as starting points. They work best when both people can speak freely, listen carefully, and ask questions of their own.
A person's answers also deserve to be understood alongside their actions and circumstances.
In the Bahá’í writings, becoming acquainted with another person's character is an important part of considering marriage.
ashna.date draws on the value of thoughtful introductions by beginning with five questions about faith, character, and hopes for marriage.
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